Nesting? Are we nesting properly?
So what do you do if you aren’t into shopping for clothing or decor and don’t have a whole nursery to fill with stuff? How does one “nest” properly?
Turns out we just do MORE of the things we did before to make our home nice. Lia cooks more. (We’ve finally gotten to the long awaited time in which we can make and freeze all kinds of meals and treats for ourselves even though Lia’s been thinking up stuff to make 6months ago.)
Oh and I clean more. I get to organize the house and arrange things like they are the still lives I made in art school.
Blueberry breakfast loaf. One mighta been chocolate chip. 
Mac’n’cheese penne casserole headed for the freezer. 
Frozen before wrapping tops. 
Frozen loafs and cookie dough bars ready for slice n bake! (Healthy-ish cookies) 
Lasagna! (One was eaten that night.) 
Soup. 
Soup maker.
The When-Is-This-Darn-Baby-Gonna-Get-Here Phase!
When you’re giving birth at home you are on the baby’s schedule in regards to when they decide to arrive; which is fine. I did ask the midwives if there was going to be any early indication (besides labor) that the baby was coming and of course they politely rolled their eyes at my dumb-dad questions and cheerfully said “nope!” -I had thought at the very least they could have told me some secret anceint midwifery insight, like seeing two birds flying perpendicular across a moonlit sky just after dusk or some shit like that.
A lot of what the midwives do is temper expectations, so often our anxious questions were quickly answered with not reassurances but more often with responses like “you’ll just have to wait and see”. Not that the midwives weren’t caring or dismisses of our worries, but the truth of pregnancy and birth is that there isn’t as many finite answers as you’d like. This, of course, is not the view taken by the medical community who prefer strict answers and regulated timetables to better suit the needs of the hospital administrators rather than the mothers-tob-be. Hey, why doesn’t this thing have auto-correct for my spellding?
I think what I am trying to say is that a lot of the advice and instructions the midwives told us was often qualified with a “this may be different for you”. There are also so many tropes that just don’t end up being true for you.
